Definiteness of purpose is the starting point of all achievement.” – W. Clement Stone
Throughout the MKMMA process I have become intimately familiar with the words and philosophies of Og Mandino, Emmet Fox, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Earl Nightengal, Napoleon Hill and Clement Stone. The wisdom of those who have gone before has skillfully been presented and integrated into every cell in my body.
Integrated into every cell of my body? Yes it is true. The above leaders, along with the MKMMA team, have assisted me in understanding that every thought I have creates my reality. I only have to look at the life I am leading to realize this is true. But in order to stop and change direction I must do this at a cellular level. Erase memories and restrictive views, decide what I believe to be true, replace old habits with new, and become invested in the process.
To have this life changing experience I had to be prepared to do the work. Take personal responsibility as I worked towards mastery of my thoughts, beliefs, emotions which in turn would lead me to take different actions and thus experience different results.
Last week we were strongly encouraged to sit in silence. We were given several options of how to accomplish this task and while not a course requirement, I knew that I would not receive the full benefit of this program if I did not follow this advice. I left my home Tuesday morning and drove 2.5 hours north of my town. I began my silence Tuesday at 1:00 pm and completed the exercise on Thursday at 6:00 pm. WOW!!!!!
I have never done anything like this before and so I entered the exercise with an open mind, not sure what to expect. I am an extrovert and receive my energy from being around and conversing with others. The first day was rough. I found I was watching the clock and wondering how I would make it through the scheduled silence. I was planning my meals for the next day which made me laugh because usually I never know what we are having until I am ready to begin making it. By day two I was very comfortable in the silence. I wrote whatever came to me and by the third day I could barely keep up with the creative ideas that were floating through me.
I was grateful that I had spent the past two years in a reflective state. I had gotten used to being by myself and so when I chose to participate in the silence it wasn’t the shock it might have been two years ago. I had also spent many months clearing much of my life-long chatter and so I was open to listening to a new story.
My reality, like everyone’s, was formed when I was a child. I made decisions based on the experiences I shared with my family, my classmates, my curriculum, my friends, etc. But I now know that these thoughts do not define me. They were in reality tribal, collective thoughts most often created from a foundation of fear and a survival mode of thinking. Many of these thoughts passed down from generation to generation, unaware of the outside influences that had shaped their thinking. I had clung to these tribal values because I believed they had kept me safe. I believed that to be true. That is until now. To go into the stillness, the quiet, where all thoughts, other than my own, were excused I was able to hear my own voice.
As Asara Lovejoy (2007) shares, “Rather than saying life is a lesson, we are here for learning. We are here to go from experience to learning. This is different than saying you are learning a lesson. A lesson means that you are required to learn something, and if you don’t, you pass or fail, you are good or bad, you are in the duality of struggle.” (152) We have free choice and this free choice allows me to choose to have a different type of learning experience. I entered this retreat with an awareness that I was so done with this old story. I have had these experiences over and over. Now I was open to having a new experience, learning new lessons from a place of abundance.
I am whole, perfect, powerful, strong, loving, healthy, prosperous, and happy.
The silence reconnected me with my inner self, the place where my innate wisdom has laid dormant. What I realized is I have always known what it was I was here to do and the silence gave me the confidence to pursue a life of purposeful intend. It allowed me to reconnect with my compass, that will now lead me forward on path, on task, on purpose…..with intent.
What did I learn in the silence? Below is my top 10 list of things I became aware of.
- I became aware that I was comfortable being alone
- I became aware I need to be a keen observer, be open to the possible, and be willing to change my perspective of how I believe the world to be
- I became aware of the value of forgiveness
- I became aware of how disconnected I had been from myself with all of the daily distractions in my life
- I became aware of the importance of the daily meditation for without a commitment to listen to my inner voice it is quickly lost in the whirl wind of daily activity
- I became aware of the importance of challenges for the opportunities of growth they provide
- I received confirmation that my PPN’s and DMP are on target
- I became aware that the same voice that said I could not is the same voice that now tells me I CAN, I CAN, I CAN
- I became aware that the only person’s approval I need is my own (as a people pleaser this was HUGE) and
- I became aware I was returning with a new found confidence and an excitement that life is shifting and I can’t wait to enjoy it!